“Every day in a life fills the whole life with expectations and memory.” C.S. Lewis
Reverse Engineering Your Day
"I am in survival mode. I don't believe a person can honestly be in control of their lives...it’s moving too far. Maybe back in the good old days you could, but not now! The moment I make a plan for the day, things change. I feel exhausted!”
These are the words of a leader I recently coached. Can you relate at some level?
He explained that he is heading for burnout, but that he did not want another job. In addition, his health was failing, his marriage was in trouble, and he literally ground his teeth to the point of breaking them off (He got tooth implants and broke them off as well!)
I replied, “Sounds like it’s time to get at the helm? Living at the helm is possible.” We did a number of things to help him do that. One simple idea that worked wonders for him is Reverse Engineering your day. Here is how it works.
1) Everyday, set a block of time just to plan--whether that be 10, 20 or 30 minutes. This is the most important thing you will ever do to gain control. How long you spend planning is not as important as “that” you spend time planning.
2) Ask yourself, “What memory would you like to create today?” Listen to your gut...write down the thing(s) that come to mind. What memory do you want to create with: Work Family Self God/spirituality...
3) Plan how you are going to create each memory.
4) Execute your plan.
Yes, it is simple, but it changed this leader’s life. Who knows, maybe it will change yours?
This month’s challenge:
1) Set aside a planning time each day. (Remember that “Self esteem is a by product of keeping the commitments you make with yourself.”
2) Ask yourself, “What is the most important area of my life that I would like to create a positive memory in?
3) Do your best to create that memory.
Remember, you are not alone and I am pulling for you to Take the Helm and get your ship together!